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Allegation: I had sex with Y while she was intoxicated

by golergka on 9/4/25, 6:02 PM with 3 comments

  • by magicalhippo on 9/4/25, 6:53 PM

    I asked her if she wanted to stop and she didn’t answer, but she still seemed tense as if holding her breath

    I asked her why she didn’t reply when I asked her, and she told me that she had. However, I had asked her several times, and I heard nothing.

    Seems a better way would be to ask in a way that requires a positive response. Something along the lines of "do you want to continue".

    Then a missing response, regardless of reason, is naturally interpreted in the safe direction.

    This would be similar to how STOP buttons on machinery should be normally-closed, so that a broken wire is interpreted as if the STOP button was pressed.

  • by Bowes-Lyon on 9/4/25, 6:19 PM

    Why is this here??